Agnostic Humanist In The South

Dear Legislating Christians,

Alabama just passed a law allowing religious organizations to deny adoptions and fostering to LGBTQ couples on the basis of their religion. This was done under the guise of honoring religious freedom because the Christian Churches feel like if they’re forced to adopt out to LGBTQ families that the government is interfering with their religion. I’ve seen supporters saying, “This is protecting Churches from having to accept lifestyles that are in conflict with their Church teachings.”

This is a pervasive attitude with a lot of “religious freedom” legislation, that Christians are being forced to accept LGBTQ people/clients/customers. They can fight this because neither gender identity nor sexual preference are protected classes on any sort federal level. There’s no large-scale anti-discrimination legislation to deem then entire group of trans or gay people as “protected” so these laws and executive orders can be passed and people can hide it all under “religions freedom” in a way they couldn’t with age discrimination, or racism, or misogyny.

But I need to let you guys know something that you might not notice if you are a Christian.

Christianity is shoved down my face at every turn, so these legislating Christians acting like they’re being persecuted or stifled in some way is simply laughable. Before most races I run someone says a Christian prayer. God is on my money. My bank called the other day and she ended the call with, “God bless you!” My kids hear the Bible referenced at school every day, forcing me to teach Christian history and beliefs when it’s not even ours.

Can you imagine if your kid came home every day talking about the Quran? And you had to explain references to a religious text you didn’t even believe in?

It’s pervasive. There’s prayers before legislative sessions and while – if you push – they’ll invite other religions to lead, 99% of the times it is a Christian prayer. We are requiring our high-ranking government officials to demonstrate they participate in the Christian Church or we won’t elect them. Therefore they quote the bible and reference God FROM THE CAMPAIGN TRAIL.

Can you imagine if you were trying to decide who to vote for and all of the candidates started discussing how their agenda will help us all achieve enlightenment so we could one day escape samsara and reincarnation? How would that make you feel? Trying to decide who to vote for?

I just know that none of these things stuck out to me when I was a Christian. NONE of them. But they do now. Not a day goes by that I don’t have to think about Christianity in some way. There’s a quest for mission trip funding from my Facebook friend, there’s something claiming “God is Good!” when their prayers have been answered, there’s pictures from services and pretty sunsets with bible versus written on them. IT IS EVERYWHERE.

And I try not to be the angry atheist hell-bent on removing Christianity, but when I hear and see Christians claim they’re being persecuted in our country where THEIR GOD IS ON OUR MONEY, I can’t muster any sympathy.

There is serious religious persecution in other parts of the world, but in our country? Christianity is King and I can’t abide by the “protecting” of it being used to discriminate against entire groups of people. It sickens me.

15 thoughts on “Dear Legislating Christians,”

  1. I thought about commenting with an “AMEN SISTER!” I so agree with every point you made.

  2. Agree wholeheartedly. I can’t imagine what it’s like having strangers say “God bless you” all the time, but I do think it’s laughable for Christians to claim they’re being persecuted in THIS country. For all the reasons you stated and more. Not to mention the fact that Church and State are supposed to be SEPARATE.

  3. The sad thing is, Christians wouldn’t see anything wrong with your post. They believe everyone should be Christian and they’re just doing you a favor because as a result of their ramming it down your throat, you might be saved.

  4. Yeah. There’s a meme that goes around constantly that says, “Put prayer back in schools!” and that is 100% okay of a thing to wish for even though if school observed Muslim daily prayers the same people would flip out.

  5. Thank you, thank you for this. Very well said. I go between being resigned, then angry, the so, so tired.

  6. Yes, yes, yes. I’m nodding emphatically at each point. The idea that Christians are persecuted here is simply laughable.

  7. Here in Northern VA, 85% of our kids school are from the Middle East. We have to explain quite a bit, quite often. This month’s special: what is this Bollywood dance event the school is having?

  8. Thank you for this! It’s something that I’ve been feeling for so long! I teach my kids about Christianity, even though we’re not Christians, because it comes up ALL THE TIME. The idea of their “persecution” drives me crazy!

  9. I’m in Arkansas. Like Alabama, “religious liberty” is code for “evangelical Christian privilege”.

  10. I completely agree with you. I live in Mississippi and I think this is so much more prevalent in the Deep South. It pisses me off so much when I meet someone and the first thing they ask me is where I go to church. Why does that matter? It’s not their business. Twenty years ago I was in the middle of a mental breakdown. I was trying to find a therapist. One I went to asked me right away how involved was I in church. I was stunned. Here I was losing my f*****g mind and he asks me that? I told him f**k you and left. My mental health is caused by a physiological reason. My brain doesn’t work correctly. It is treatable with meds. It has nothing to do with my church involvement or what my religion is or isn’t.
    I hate what is happening in our country. I don’t understand why people can’t just be accepting.

  11. Yes! If this would faceook I would like this post a thousand times!

  12. A very nice, poignant post. This is something that has been getting under my skin lately, as well. My ex is Christian. I am not. He was (at least for a while) taking the kids to church and an educational program. So when they came home, I had the opportunity to explain that I have different beliefs, and why, and how it’s a personal thing. Our kids are homeschooled, which gives me the opportunity to teach all religions, and I don’t worry about them being forced to attest to something they don’t believe, especially at such a young age. In the meantime, lots of my FB newsfeed leads to big eye rolls.

  13. “The loss of privilege can feel like persecution.” I saw this on a sign at one of the women’s marches (not sure where) and it’s become a favorite mantra of mine.
    Thank you for another wonderful post,

  14. I feel the exact same way as a practicing Jew (who doesn’t live in the south). It’s especially hard at Christmas and Easter when some unenlightened person assumes that I need to hear “Merry Christmas” or “Happy Easter”. I want to say right back to them “Happy Channukah” at Christmas time or Happy Passover at Easter. Sometimes I actually do tell people because I believe it helps people widen their understanding. But I also understand others who choose to go to Israel in December because it is easier to escape that then face it stuffed down your throat each and every day. Sometimes people get so upset about “taking God out of everything” when you say happy holidays, but I keep saying that you include more people when you say that rather than excluding people. Understanding and forgiveness is too hard for some people, which I also don’t understand as supposed christians.

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