Can I just take a moment to be silly and comment on how I sit down to write and there are SO MANY THINGS I WANT TO WRITE ABOUT! So many different roads I want to walk down and pave with my words! Why is this so great? Because it’s National Blog Posting Month! So no struggles with content!
Of course it’s all dreary and dark talk of politics BUT STILL! LOTS OF WORDS! I actually wrote about 1,000 words on a different entry and then saved it in drafts because I kept coming back to an insulting conclusion and I couldn’t work my way out of it and I don’t want to offend Trump Supporters. (I know. I know. You have no problem offending them. You have no patience for them. Please understand some of us have Trump supporters we love and respect in our lives and we’re trying to work within the bounds of those relationships so PLEASE quit shaming me for still allowing some sort room for goodness out there.)
So many things to say that I can totally put a 1,000 word entry on hold for another day and start a new entry!
Let’s talk about some “easy” things you could do that I’ve been doing to try to allow myself some control over the situation.
- Email your local Islamic center and ask if you can be put on their email list. I used the angle of “I just want to be made aware of any community needs you might have” and they added me to the email list and said to just ignore everything that only applied to the congregation.
- Google to find the closest group to you organizing efforts for refugees. I found a refugee organization in the South through our Islamic center that is collecting clothing etc for refugees. Do a quick Google in your area and see if you can find the same. Just see if you can get on their email list so if there’s clothing needs etc you can help out.
- Spend mindfully. It’s Christmas shopping season. Look up local business that may be owned by minorites and try to shop there. Or maybe own by people in your community who you know supported Hillary’s platform. Try to spend as little at the big-box stores as possible. Eat out at locally owned restaurants. You may not have money for charity, but you can spend the money you would normally spend mindfully. And it doesn’t have to JUST benefit local or American groups. Helping the disenfranchized globally is important too. I found this GREAT RESOURCE for how to shop for GOOD. So many great ideas! You’re shopping anyway – why not do it with a purpose? Also – my friend Jennifer does this thing which I love. She gives Kiva.org giftcards. Kiva.org is a great way help on a global scale. Donnie’s current favorite charity is the Seva Foundation and they have a shopping catalog here.
- Find your local PFLAG chapter and follow them on Facebook. Ours does a lot of community meetings and vigils and beautiful events that you can simply show up at to show the community you care. Or even if you share out the events on Facebook that says, “Hey! Look! I support this group you should too!”
- Allow people to hurt in the way they need. You may not want to protest in the streets, but don’t judge the people who get catharsis from that. We all handle pain and disappointment differently. We all grieve differently. We all process anger differently. Allow everyone their own process. Maybe they seem like they got over it too fast because they’re talking non-stop about the IronBowl. Maybe you feel like someone else needs to GET OVER IT ALREADY because you’re sick of hearing about it. Give everyone their space to cope they way they want to cope.
- Offer hugs and pats on the back to people you know are hurting. I got a bunch of those at an event last night and they meant the world to me. I wear my feelings on my sleeve and some times that means I get love when I need it most.
- Self care. I found I had to set aside time to let go for a bit or else I was spiraling. I told myself, “You’re more effective if you’re sane.” Don’t forget to take care of yourself first, so that you can then put the oxygen mask on the other people in your community.
What are some things you’re doing in the immediate future to help make you feel like you have some control over the situation?