Can I follow up with two notes about last night’s post? Thanks.
First? I wasn’t going to write about it. But then – as is ALWAYS the case – someone sends me an email or a comment or some sort of feedback saying, “Thank you for talking about ________, it makes me feel less alone.” The majority of my over-sharing on this blog is from those type of comments and THIS is what I say is the best part about the internet. It removes Geography as a barrier when we’re looking for a community.
If someone has a kid at home who sometimes tells them they hate them, or sometimes hits them, then I want them to reach out to me so that we can feel less alone…together. When my Dad died, so many people shared their stores of their grief and I needed that so much. I was still a homebody at that point in my life, very crippled by my own social anxieties. I had very few real-world friends to lean on so my friends in the computer saved me. They actually saved me quite often. When I was suffering through multiple miscarriages in an attempt to build my family…When I was struggling after losing my job…When I was struggling with my post-Harry Potter Depression…
(What? It’s not always doom and gloom around here…)
So, Thank you. Again. Thank you for speaking up and encouraging me to keep sharing. Thank you for echoing your support and your own struggles. Thank you again and again and again for making this place my safe place and for helping me find a community whenever I need it.
Second? My blog flagged most of the comments you all left last night. I have no idea why. That used to happen quite often when I had all sorts of keywords flagged as “warning” for spam comments, but I don’t use that method anymore. My blog just flagged them…JUST BECAUSE. Which CRACKS ME UP. Here we all are, discussing how difficult it is to be open about the need for mental health care, and my blog says, “Ehhh…I’m going to hold this personal and vulnerable comment that you probably struggled with typing…for moderation just in case it’s spam.”
So, Ha! I’m sorry my blog is a bitch. Something we’re all talking about hits us on Akismet’s spam radar for some reason. So, thank you SO MUCH for being open and sharing and offering your support. I’m really REALLY sorry my blog held your comment for moderation. I think I pushed them all through okay now, so nothing is “pending” anymore. Akismet does a decent job protecting my blog from spam so I’m not going to get too irritated about this, but know that I have NO idea why it’s doing it and PLEASE keep commenting. Usually it “learns” so whatever is triggering the flagging will hopefully loosen up as I approve each comment it flags.
I just don’t want that to discourage anyone from future commenting. Whenever that happens I approve it, obviously. And it’s not YOU, I promise. It’s Akismet…my defender against comment spam. Akismet is evidently NOT a supporter of the mental health care industry.