First and foremost: If you don’t mind hurting the feelings of your Facebook friends, then move along! This post is not for you! But, if you would like to maybe allow the holiday season to pass without your Facebook friends getting hurt feelings – then PLEASE…think before you post.
Thing 1 – Shopping on Thanksgiving
(I wrote about this in detail here last year.) There are TONS of posts on Facebook going around basically saying things like: “I’m not shopping on Thanksgiving because I value family over capitalism!” And y’all? I get it. I hate shopping…PERIOD…but know that some of your Facebook friends ENJOY it, they do it with their FAMILIES or their FRIENDS. Unless you’re also going to call out everyone who goes to movies on Christmas, then give them a break. You can easily just say, “Shopping on Thanksgiving is not for me!” but don’t try to make it like anyone who DOES shop on Thanksgiving has thrown their family to the curb for a Furbee.
(Are Furbees an thing anymore?)
Some people don’t even have big families with big Thanksgivings. If you do? BE GRATEFUL, but don’t be judgmental, okay? Also – some people have REALLY tight Christmas budgets and some of those deals can be the difference between their child getting THING A for Christmas and their child NOT getting THING A. And if they really want their kid to have THING A under the tree at Christmas, can you blame them?
THING 2: Elf on the Shelf
It’s starting now. The snarky, “OMG…Elf on the Shelf is so Creepy!” or the, “We don’t do Elf on the Shelf because it’s not in the spirit of Christmas,” or the, “I’m so glad I’m not doing Elf on the Shelf!” posts are abundant on Facebook. And you know what? That’s fine. But PLEASE watch your tone. Imagine your friend who really enjoys Elf on the Shelf seeing your posts. She’s either going to feel dumb, or embarrassed, or straight up defensive about your post. If you don’t like it? That’s fine. But watch the way you express that and realize that your friends may experience JOY when they do Elf on the Shelf, or even if they don’t, their kids DO – so can you let them have that without making fun of them? Or blaming them for Christmas losing it’s meaning? We do Elf on the Shelf but we’re also sending Christmas Joy packs so we can take time to notice how lucky we are and spread Joy to others.
Like I said, if you just want your distaste known and don’t care if people’s feelings are hurt? Then go right ahead. But if you’re concerned about the spirit of family and Christmas but you DON’T care if you hurt someone’s feelings? Then you might be doing it wrong.
Optional Ways To Express Your Difference Of Opinion Without Pooping On The Joy Of Your Friends or Family
We don’t shop on Thanksgiving in our family, do you? What pulls you out – the deals or do you just like shopping? Find out why your friends/family might go shopping instead of judging them!
We don’t do Elf on the Shelf because I can barely remember to shower, much less move an Elf! You can express your thoughts by being self-deprecating, that way no one gets their feelings hurt!
We don’t shop on Thanksgiving because we can’t move having eaten so much! Again…expressing your opinion with self-deprecation keeps anyone from getting their feelings hurt.
Do you like doing Elf on the Shelf? Do your kids really like it? Maybe some stories from your friends will soften your heart a little bit!