Thing 1


Okay! Today is the day! E’s been gone a week and that’s all I allowed myself to wallow in misery and cry over his adulthood. I can’t eat anymore ice cream for breakfast or read “The Fault In Our Stars” for the millionth time. Oh, shit. That reminds me. I TOTALLY forgot to tell you guys about the tattoo he got before he went off to school.

FIRST. Let me say this: I never in 14 million years thought E would get tattoos. I just assumed he didn’t like them because Donnie and I have them, because he never EVER talked about him. Not until one night early in the summer when he said, “I’m going to get a Deathly Hallows tattoo.” and I said, “CAN I GET ONE TOO?”

I have witnesses. I swear that’s how it happened. I worry everyone is going to be like, “Dude…Kim totally talked E into getting a tattoo…that’s crazy…”


Like, two days after that one he was already thinking about what else he wanted. And I did that too. Which is how you know you’re a Tattoo Person. Tattoo People think about tattoos all the time. They love them and very rarely regret them. They put a lot of thought into them and they mean very special things to them. If you don’t get it? You’re not a Tattoo Person. No big deal. Tattoo People understand Not-Tattoo People. They don’t ask for explanations. Not-Tattoo People like to give explanations though, and sometimes they can come out very insulting. Think about it this way: If you wouldn’t say, “You know…I really don’t like that dress you’re wearing.” or “I just don’t get people who get your hairstyle,” then don’t say that about people’s tattoos. Because they do it because THEY like it, not because YOU do, and you openly saying you don’t like it is no better than openly critiquing their style. Or worse…the art they choose for their home.

Wow. Sorry. I actually could rant about that for awhile…but I’m getting off topic. E’s new tattoo!

So, he said he was going to get one more before going to school but he wasn’t going to tell me what it was. He just knew I’d love it and that I’d wish I had it too. Donnie and I pretty much guessed it would be a Nerdfighter/John Green thing, we just didn’t know what. Well – if you’ve read “The Fault In Our Stars” you’ll get it:


The autographed poster is mine on the left. That is my favorite line from TFioS. I have a thing for infinity symbols anyway as I have a small infinity tattoo on my wrist in memory of my Dad. E designed his tattoo and then the tattoo artist made it better by using her own handwriting. It’s genius. I love it and wish I had it on a t-shirt. He got it in that location because that’s where August Water’s leg is amputated in TFioS. Seriously. If you haven’t read the book? Read it. It’s inspiring. Hence, the ink.

13 thoughts on “#Nerdfighter”

  1. I have tears in my eyes. That is beautiful. Tell E I love it!

    And the way you explained people’s comments about tattoos is perfect. That must be so insulting! You should put that on a t-shirt, too. I am not a tattoo person in that I don’t have any myself, but I love beautiful tattoos on other people. I don’t really have the body for them. But I have been thinking of getting one for a long time. I want my mom’s signature, exactly copied from letters she wrote to me, and I want it somewhere I can see it. My arm, I guess. You say tattoo people rarely regret getting them. What about non-tattoo people. Will I regret getting one?

  2. Monica, I was a “non-tattoo” person until last year, when I was 47 and I got my first one. I can tell you that I absolutely DO NOT regret it. In fact, I am already thinking of another one like Kim said!

  3. I think age has a LOT to do with it. I know several non-tattoo people who regret the tattoos they got when they were young, but all of the non-tattoo people who got them when they were older? (Included a school-teacher aunt of mine) don’t regret them at all!

  4. The tattoo artist that gave me my first one said, “If you start thinking about your next one in less than a year from this one, you’re a tattoo person.” 🙂 I’d have a lot more if I was A) Rich or B) An artist. I have IDEAS of more but I can’t quite turn them into art yet!

  5. Awesome tattoo! I think John and other Nerdfighters would get a big kick out of seeing that. So excited for the movie. I’m an Indy native and am looking forward to seeing some of the local stuff make it to the screen. Bummed they didn’t film here. DFTBA!

  6. Well, age is on my side! I am 48. And I have been thinking about this for over a year. My husband is a non-tattoo person and he is not too thrilled with the idea. But he can close his eyes. I just need to find a good tattoo artist who is good at “writing.” Thanks!

  7. I am glad to hear that you don’t regret it! I really want to get one, so I am going to start looking for a good artist. Thank you for letting me know about your experience.

  8. i want to get a tattoo that says “a word after a word after a word is power” (a margaret atwood quote) going around my wrist like a bracelet, but i can’t get tattoos because my skin has a healing problem. sad face.

  9. I read The Fault in Our Stars this week and I already want to read it again. I loooooooved it. Cried like a damn baby but it was so worth it. E’s tattoo is perfect and where he put is even better. Love you, too for that amazing bonding experience.

  10. I wanted to chime in with my agreement- you will not regret it! Time spent thinking about what you want is definitely a factor in loving your tattoo. Impulse tattoos (everyone’s doing it!) lead to regret, but if you know what you want than you should definitely go for it. I have 5 currently, with plans for at least 4 more and the ONLY one I dislike is the one I got after thinking about it for only a few days.

  11. I love beautiful, thoughtful tattoos. I dislike tacky “just because I wanted to get something so I picked out something on the wall of flash” tattoos. I don’t have tattoos myself but maybe one day.

  12. I love the infinity concept too. I joke I will teach my kids that infinity + 1 is more but for the engineer husband I restrain. Here is another math love phrase; one positive negates all negatives. If you love someone you know that is true.

  13. I took Fault is in Our Stars with me to Dragon*Con this weekend on your recommendation. I really enjoyed the book.

    But when the boy starts being genuinely honest I was standing in line waiting to have my picture taken with John Barrowman (which is great fun and I highly recommend). It was a strange strange contrast.

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