First off? THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. Thank you for commiserating, for reassuring, for listening. And for those of you who said you saw the fateful deleted entry, thank you for not holding that moment of weakness against me. I see good moments periodically, like when he storms off to his room when tell him to instead of yelling, “NO!” and trying to hit. Or when he IMMEDIATELY apologizes for something. I don’t actually feel like I’m raising a serial killer, but it is hard sometimes to see a positive future for him when he’s kicking me. But we’ve had several good days in a row, so, I’m no longer wallowing in the dark depression of fears of failed parenting. So…YAY!
Now! On to other topics I want your advice about since yesterday went so well! How do you handle TV/Screen time in your house? In my house TV use is monitored, but just in a general way.
- You can’t turn it on without permission.
- You can only watch pre-approved programming.
- Periodically Mom will yell TURN OFF THE TV AND GO OUTSIDE! and that has to be obeyed.
That’s about it. I do try to make sure that they’re doing OTHER things for longer each day than they are watching TV, and I’m okay with that standard. The problem comes with Nikki’s Kindle Fire. She got it for Christmas and we’re just kinda flailing around with how to manage the use of it. Yesterday I freaked out and deleted all of the Hair/Makeup apps/games she has on it because I got so sick of checking out what she was playing and seeing some princess face and she’s REMOVING IT’S PIMPLES. (Seriously. That’s a game.) Or she’s picking out it’s outfit. Or she’s doing it’s hair. I mean – I KNOW I would have loved those games too at her age – and I turned out just fine. But I’m terrified she’s going to grow up with some sort of self-image crisis playing these damn games all the time. “FIND A MATH GAME, JEEZUS!” is what I griped at her when I finally removed all ninety-million glamorous girl type games.
So…yeah…how do you monitor what apps/games they use? I actually think I’d rather her play Temple Run all day than that crap.
And then…when can they use it? I have two rules right now with the Kindle Fire:
- No TV on the Kindle without our permission. (Because she was getting around our TV rules for a bit with the Kindle.)
- No double screen time. You can’t play on the Kindle AND watch TV at the same time. ONE SCREEN AT A TIME.
But beyond that I’m just winging it. I’m trying to encourage her to find smarter games and apps (any suggestions?) reminding her that I’d give her more Kindle time if she was doing something I thought was at least good for her brain. But I don’t know how much Screen Time (TV + Kindle) is a good level.
Let me clarify: How much is a “good” level for a Mom working from home every day. If I didn’t have actual work to do I’d probably manage it a little better but I do need to get work done so screen time helps with that. So! If you need the screen as a babysitter what is the limit at which you use it before you think, “Okay. This is seriously going to affect they’re development.”
And PLEASE! Share with me some fun apps/games that DON’T cause me to have flashback so to summer daycare in middle school and the jackasses who mocked my acne.