Nikki is getting to the age where I won’t be writing as much serious stuff here about her. I did the same thing with E early on in his life, writing more about the fun adventures than about any struggles they may be having. In other words, this may be the last “serious” entry I write about her and I’m hoping everyone will just remember I wrote it and assume it’s my life EVERY SINGLE DAY with my daughter for the next 10 years. Even if I’m just writing about her fashion choices.
Nikki is an emotional creature. She has an emotional range of 1-10 and she spends it at 1 or at 10. She never hangs out anywhere in between. And the jump from 1 to 10 is just that, a jump by-passing all the numbers in between. She just goes straight to 10.
This weekend we had a late night with her doing a lot of crying in my arms about how she has “no idea what’s going on with her life” and about her struggles with friends and boyfriends and how she wished I could be principal at her school so that when she was upset she could see me.
And she cried…and cried…and just kept wailing, “I can’t stop crying!”
I sat on the stairs and held her and rocked her and talked to her for about 30 minutes. Then we moved to the couch and snuggled and watch some TV and talked a bit more until she fell asleep.
Some days I think this is just a girl thing, because I remember those heightened emotions, but other days I think she’s just an emotional being. Reacts intensely and severely to all situations, and just always will. In which case I have to teach her how to process those emotions and deal with them in a healthy way. And since I tend to deal with mine by eating? My counseling may be a little weak.
So! Do you have an emotional child at home? How do you counsel them to deal with those emotions? She’s taking pictures of her family to school to give her strength when she needs it. We went through several memories and stories she can keep in her arsenal when she’s having a bad day. She can write it down and bring it to me later. Those are the basic ideas I’ve given her, do you have any more suggestions?