Wes is sick. He woke up in the middle of the night Wednesday night with an asymptomatic fever. It was high enough that he had trouble sleeping until the ibuprofen kicked in. It was a rough night, to say the least.
Donnie stayed home with him yesterday for the simple reason – it was his turn. Nikki was sick last week and I stayed home with her then. His turn. Simple decision.
But last night? He started puking. Still running a fever. Today’s decision is not as easy. I get a set amount of days off a year and I’ve already had to use some for Nikki being sick, snow day, and a college visit day. Essentially? The month of January as not over and I have taken 20% of the days I get already for the year. I only have 8 days left for the rest of the year. AND IT IS STILL JANUARY.
(My first job out of college? I got 5 vacation days and THREE sick days. And those were STRICTLY enforced. So, I’m totally better off now than I was then. I couldn’t have done that at all with three kids.)
Donnie gets a lot more than I do, just from having earned extra time the longer he’s been with his company. He also gets “family care” days. So – in terms of who has more to spare? Him. All the time: Him.
But the other side? He gets paid more than I do. I worry about him causing problems at work taking too much time off. I don’t want to do that…obviously.
This is a dilemma households with two working parents face every time a kid is sick. And you never feel great about any decision you make. There’s always a con. Someone’s supervisor gets irritated, someone runs out of time off (I did last year), and then whomever goes to work? Feel shitty for being the crappy parent.
I’m just curious…how do you decide? Or are you like us…does it vary? Does it depend on the situation, who’s doing what at work, etc. Or is it an easy system, me…then you…then me…then you. What is your system? And please tell me someone runs out of time every year because – for any year I’ve been working? I’ve never had to carry over time. NEVER. I always run out. EVERY YEAR. And the crazy part? My family doesn’t get sick often. Hardly at all. But we still have to take time off for the periodic fever, or doctor’s appointment. With three kids? That time goes fast. How does your family deal with that?