Wes – for being troublesome in so many ways – is also the sweetest of my children. I mean that he’s the most affectionate and just loving. He’s always telling me I look beautiful and that I’m, “the best Mommy EVER!” He’s complimentary and can’t get enough hugs. He’s my snugglebunny. And it’s not just me – he doesn’t really have to know you that well to snuggle into your embrace and let me tell you: HE HAS MELTED DOZENS OF HEARTS with those snuggles.
This means the inevitable has happened several times: He’s asked me to marry him.
At first I had a hard time explaining why we couldn’t get married, but then I fell upon a great explanation that I thought I would share with you in case you have an affectionate child who assumes that their massive love for you means eventual betrothal.
I explain to him that – when you marry someone – it’s because you love them so much you want them to be part of your family FOREVER. So you don’t have to marry the family you already have: We’re already family! I explain that he’ll meet someone who is NOT part of our family some day and he’ll want to marry them to bring them into our family.
“You don’t have to marry me! You’re already stuck with me forever!”
This way I avoid the kissing/sex/weakened genetic pool conversation that I’m not sure a 4-year old would understand.
Now…if only I could figure out to simplify the explanation as to why boys can’t “feed babies out of their boobies” like girls can. Mammary glands are just above his level of comprehension right now.