Thing 2

Because It’s All About The Hair.

New Hairstyle NikkiZ has been INSANE about her hair lately. This weekend she really wanted to wear it in a side-ponytail with a clip. BUT – her hair is so fine it wouldn’t stay in. So, I offered to do the side-braid pictured above. After I did it she put her hand back on the braid and was all, Mooommm…this is NOT how I wanted it to be! I didn’t want it all to be in a braid! I wanted a side ponytail! I tried to explain to her that it was in a side ponytail. She was SOOOO exasperated. Like she was talking to someone 10 degrees less-intelligent than she was. She sighed a lot and was very irritated with me. I finally said: GO LOOK AT IT.

She looked in the mirror and exclaimed, “Oh! I can’t even see the braid!” I know, kid. I’m awesome. Get used to it.

Then, yesterday was dance day at school. She had it in her head how she wanted her hair but I didn’t understand and she kept getting frustrated that I kept getting it wrong. Finally, I improvised based on what I thought she wanted. I put to small braids with the clips that just held the small pieces of her hair back. When she felt it she was unsure about it. “Mom? I don’t think I’m going to like this.” GO LOOK AT IT.

She ran back out to the kitchen (that’s where we do hair in the morning, of course) and wrapped her arms around my legs, “I love it! THANK YOU MOMMA!” Let me repeat: I’m awesome. Get used to it.

But it’s really funny how attached she is to the perfect hairstyle. And I’m so glad I can french-braid. She struggles a bit with her hair not doing exactly what mine does, but I try to explain that our hair is very different. She likes that I can tie mine in a knot, which hers won’t do. But she really spends time thinking about how she wants her hair to look. Which means that, of course, we have nowhere to go but DOWNHILL from here. If she’s this emotionally attached to the perfect hairstyle now? The teen years are going to be dangerously toxic for ALL OF US. Especially those of us holding hairbrushes.

I was not like this at all. I got a little obsessed with hairstyles in middle school, but since I was being raised by my Dad I didn’t inflict my madness on anyone else. Do you have a daughter? When did she get insane about her hair?

19 thoughts on “Because It’s All About The Hair.”

  1. I think it would irritate me that I couldn’t French braid then one day it came to me and I could do it – I’m not sure what happened – I think it was a combination of watching other people and then just experimenting. Most days I just tie it back in a messy bun and we go from there. If I’m going out then I do something special with it (like this weekend I need to ask my house mate to curl ir for me.

    My mum has quite short hair but she had longer hair when she was younger so she can kinda do mine.

  2. Can I come down and take lessons off of you? I would love to be able to braid my daughters’ hair like this, but somehow it always looks liketheir hair was done by someone who was blind or missing fingers! Good luck down the road!

  3. Maybe she will grow into it, but for now, my daughter only shows a passing interest in her hair. Seriously, she could run for days unkempt until she looked like a dog with mange before she will willing let me run a comb through her hair to chase all the rats away.

    However, she does LOVE her barrettes. So there is some hope.

  4. Brandy – Indiana Hoosier Baby! – I'm a wife to my amazingly talented writer husband, Gabe, and a mom of two, Aiden and Olivia. In my free time (ha!) I'm a registered nurse. More importantly than the rest, I am part of an Apostolic Pentecost church and am currently a Sunday School teacher. I care deeply about my service for the Lord and part of that is being a modest woman. Modesty isn't just part of my religion, it's my life and how I live every day, but being modest doesn't mean having no fashion or fun. And that's what I want to show you here. I hope you come along for the ride.
    Brandy says:

    I have LONG hair and deal with mine daily but having to deal with Livi’s scares me like nothing else. I know how important hair can be to a young girl and worry about hers since it is fine and blond and I have no idea how it’s going to behave in the coming years. We’ll see though. Oh and I will be using that side french braid in the future! Love it!

  5. There might be a dent in the wall at my parent’s house where I threw a hairbrush. It’s a possibility, but I’m not admitting to anything because I’m a totally sane person and would never resort to throwing things while dealing with the ton of fine, blond hair I have on my head. Never.

  6. My daughter has beautiful, thick, red hair that she will not let me touch. 🙁 We keep it cut short because she can’t stand having it brushed and it can get nasty. Just last night she let her 7 year old brother put some clips in it. That was a minor miracle. The boy is good, just needs a little more practice.

  7. You’re scaring me. How did this happen? I am the most hair-idiotic person ever.

    I need to learn to French braid.

    (Nikki’s hair is adorable, of course – you are The Awesome!)

  8. Courtney – Huntsville, AL – I'm a late 20's Southerner who tries to juggle too many things at one time. My husband and I moved to Alabama a few years ago from Tennessee. I grew up in the theatre and on the stage thanks to my ballet training. Nowadays, I spend most of my time grading papers and forcing high school brains to function outside the box. TwirlingOnTiptoes makes me feel stress free and calm - which is what I want to think about whenever I blog. However, I end up doing a lot of venting so maybe this is a happy place AFTER I'm done blabbing.
    Courtney says:

    I have thin, fine, straight hair. It was SO ANNOYING growing up because I couldn’t figure out what to do with it other than having it lay flat on my head (plus I was too lazy to do a ton to it). Teach her how to french braid her own hair so she can become independent to do her own hair the way she wants it. I wish I had been taught to french braid on my own head, because I want to be able to do it now! She is quite the diva – probably having to overcompensate for being the only female child in the house 🙂

  9. My daughter is 16, and her hair is probably a lot like yours. She gets it from her father. My hair is fine and thin. I was never a girly girl. I have no idea how to french braid. I pretty much let her hair grow long until just after her second year of preschool. We struggled every morning brushing it. She hated it and always cried no matter how gentle I was. If her father had to do it, he either skipped it or they ended up in a heated argument because neither of them are morning people. So I made the decision to tell her that we needed to cut her hair shorter. And I kept it pretty much shoulder length or shorter in the summer, until she was combing it herself. Once she was combing it herself, I’ve let her determine what she wants to do. I’ve tried suggesting things that would make it more comfortable, like shaving the very back, to make it less hot in the summer time, but she doesn’t want anything done with it. Luckily she’s not as girly as NikkiZ but she’s girly enough that when her hair is not acting right she sighs and will spend quite some time trying to wrestle it into submission and she has a ton of hair care products she uses for that purpose. So maybe if you can explain to her, that she has to be nice to get the favor of you doing her hair for her, it will save you from the terrible teenage NikkiZ wrath. Might not but at least it’s a possibility, since that’s kinda how the real world works. If you aren’t nice, people don’t want to help you the next time.

  10. You are awesome at HAIR and have always been the BEST braider!! I suggest that you have one of her friends over and offer to fix the friends’ hair. Once she sees how much her friend loves the way you fix their hair she will be supper excited that you are HER mom and can do her hair everyday. Or you could tell her how we would line up before school for you to braid our hair in high school. Next, teach her to do her own hair before middle/high school and hopefully you can stop fighting this battle before hormones kick in. Stress to her all the wonderful things her hair will do that yours won’t (mainly be straight). I fight this battle all the time having one daughter with straight hair and one with curly hair.

  11. Swistle – Thistleville – Swistle lives with her husband Paul and children Robert (born 1999), William (born 2001), twins Elizabeth and Edward (born 2005), and Henry (born 2007). Email: Swistle at Gmail dot com. "Swistle" rhymes with "thistle."
    Swistle says:

    I started freaking out about my hair at age 13. But I was opinionated earlier—mostly along the lines, though, of my mom NOT doing anything to it.

  12. Imagine the terror my mom must have endured as she had THREE girls, ALL nuts about their hair. Sometimes it’s a straight miracle that woman didn’t just end us.

    And I like the sideways braid 🙂

  13. Haha I tie my hair in a knot ALL THE TIME. It probably doesn’t stay in as well as yours (I have a great deal of fine, wavy hair, well, slightly curly but only when it really feels like it!)

  14. My 14 yr old step-daughter, Alyssa, whom I have been with since birth….. has been OBSESSED about her hair since I swear before she HAD any hair….. she is mixed, so her hair is very thick & VERY curly. She has always had a very strong opinion how she wants it to be. But, let me just tell you what you get to look forward to. I hope she has her OWN bathroom, because the boys will NEVER be able to get into the bathroom. Alyssa can take 3 hours just to fix her hair, especially if she straightens it which takes an hour and a half. If we are going out to dinner, she has to start getting dressed 3 hours early, and can never get anywhere on time. So, don’t plan on being on time again, EVER !! My 8 year old, is starting to do the same thing…..

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