I read a discussion on Facebook awhile back about whether or not – as bloggers – we may perpetuate our own bad characteristics by writing about them all the time. That by giving them this constant focus on our blogs (Why can’t I lose weight? How can I be a better Mom? Where are my keys?) we actually stop ourselves from making any real changes in our life.
It was an interesting commentary/discussion and I was equal parts offended because it was true, and self-righteous because it’s not.
I think the two flaws I discuss the most on my blog is 1) Weight/Fitness Level and 2) Social Anxiety. And while I’ve referenced both on my blog many times, that treatment seems to have had opposing effects on those two flaws. Almost 8 years and I’m still dealing with losing weight but my social anxiety? I’m conquering that on multiple levels.
Over the last year I’ve started volunteering with E’s theatre program and gotten placed in actual jobs: Volunteer Coordinator, Producer 2012, Cake Popper Queen. I’ve served as a Soccer Mom and I have gone to new book clubs and playgroups. I joined a boot camp. I’m going to a Halloween party for children at a stranger’s house in a few weeks and will be hosting my OWN party which I’ll be inviting strangers to in November for the Harry Potter premiere. In other words? I’m a changed woman and I know I owe most of that to my blog.
So many of my blog friends suffer from the same type of social anxieties. I think that’s what draws a lot of us to blogging. It’s less anxiety ridden than the “real world.” We are scared to talk to other Moms and often get burned easily by snobby encounters. But talking about it with you guys? And then realizing how much blog material I get when I try something new? Has helped me come out of my shell. I’m still no social diva on any level, but I’m totally branching out and have way more real world friends now than I did this time last year.
In other words? I see both sides of the discussion. I see how the perpetual, “Why can’t I lose weight? Why do I keep eating? Why am I lazy?” type entries could hold me to these behaviors. On the other hand? Writing about my fear of people and new places and strange gatherings? Helped me overcome my fears and meet more people.
What about you? Do you feel like blogging about your flaws perpetuate their existance or helps you conquer them? Or – as in my case – BOTH?