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Update

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I’m mainly posting this because I’m not sure where I’ll be or how easy it will be to post the next few days/weeks. I’m going home to Knoxville to start saying goodbye to my Dad. I’m not sure how much time we have left with him, but he’s getting hospice care to see him through to the end with as little pain as possible. Please keep all of us in your thoughts. I’d say more about it but I am struggling to type through the tears.

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209 thoughts on “Update”

  2. Oh my goodness!!! I am so sorry to hear this news. I will keep your family in my thoughts through this time. When my dad passed it was quick… the waiting that you will have to do? I cannot even imagine. If you need anything please let me know. My heart is completely broken for you. (hugs)

  6. 🙁 oh no… Oh kim… I’m so so so sorry. 🙁 you gave all my thoughts and prayers and MASSIVE hugs right now. Take all the time you need.

  9. I’m so sorry. From what you’ve written about your dad during the last few years that I’ve been reading, he must be an amazing man, and I can imagine that saying goodbye will be excruciating. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

    I lost my favorite aunt to multiple myeloma this past fall. She was an incredible lady whom I strive to be more like. I guess this disease picks the best ones. It is an asshole of a disease.

  13. Oh my gosh! I’m so shocked and saddened to hear this. I thought your dad was doing better, and I’m so sorry for you and your family to be going through this right now. I’m keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers and I’ll be here to read more when you’re back.

  27. Oh no….my heart hearts reading this I feel for you and your family durning this difficult time and will keep you in my prayers through this that you come through and remember all the good things and take a part of him with you. BIG HUG!

  28. There are no words to ease your pain. Know that you are in the thoughts of many.

  31. Thinking of you and praying!! I will say that Hospice was a huge blessing to our family when we needed them.

  33. I have been in exactly this spot and it is awful. I am so, so sorry you have to go through it. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  34. Oh, Zoot, I am so sorry. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. I know there is nothing anyone can say that can ease your pain.

  36. I’m so sorry. I know that this will be unbelievably difficult for you all, and I will be thinking of you, sending comforting thoughts your way.

  38. I am positively shocked. I am so sad that you and your sweet family is going through this. I could go on about the unfairness, but that would be redundant.

    Will send email shortly.

  39. Holding you and your family in the light, as the Quakers say.

    It is hard and horrible. I hope there is some consolation in being able to say goodbye.

  40. Oh Zoot, I’m so sorry. Hospice is an amazing place and I know they’ll be able to help your dad and your family in this difficult time. I’ll be thinking of you.

  41. I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my dad a little over a year ago. He went through hospice too. There is little to say to console you now, but I really did appreciate the time I had to say goodbye to him. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  45. So very very sorry. I unfortunately know how difficult it is to say goodbye to a parent, so my heart is with you. *hugs*

  48. Oh my gosh, honeysuckle, this is terrible. I know how much he means to you. A boatload of comforting and peaceful vibes to him, to you, to all of you. Please, please, please call if you need anything.

  53. Oh Zoot. I am so sorry to hear this news. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs to you!

  56. I’m so sorry. I wish there was something I could do. But I will at least keep you and your family in my prayers. Drive safe.

  59. K-

    I can’t even imagine what you are feeling right now, but I promise that I will be praying for you, your brother, and especially your dad. Let me know if there is anything that I can do. I am always here to listen.

    -S

  61. Oh Zoot, I’m so sorry. Will be keeping you & your family in my thoughts & prayers.

  63. Oh no, oh, I am so, so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your sweet family.

  65. I am so very, very sorry!! Much love and many prayers for your dad’s comfort, for you, your kids and your brother as you all deal with it.

  71. Holding you and your family gently in my heart and wishing peace for all of you.

  73. I’m so sorry. You will be in my thoughts. Sending hugs from Tuscaloosa!

  78. I am so sorry…. My dad died last year (lungcancer) and I know there is nothing I can say to ease the sorrow. I’m so sorry.But maybe…. Try not to think of the time you have left as goodbye… try to think of it as hellos that you will remember until you meet again.

  81. Oh, Kim, I am so sorry. Nothing I can say will make anything better, but please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

  82. I am so so sorry. We’ll keep you & your family in our prayers. Hugs.

  83. My condolences to everyone in your family, I know hospice is very helpful in these situations, rely on them to help you get through til the end.

    *big internet group hug*

  84. I’ve just said a prayer for you and your family Zoot. I’m sorry for this difficult time you’re going through…and my thoughts are with you.

  85. Hospice is a wonderful organization. He’ll be in wonderful care. All my best to you. Remember to eat and sleep and to keep your strength up so you can be there for your dad.

  87. Oh man, I’m so so sorry! I thought he was getting better, and now hospice?! My thoughts are with you and your family.

  88. I’m so so sorry to hear this. I also thought he was getting better. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time.

  91. A stranger from Michigan who reads your blog–you and your family are in my thoughts.

  93. Delurking to tell you how very sorry I am. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. ((hugs))

  96. Coming out of lurking….

    Your dad sounds like an awesome person from what you have written about him over the years. I am sorry to hear this. I will be thinking of you and your family.

  97. Oh, Kim, I’m so sorry 🙁 I know how close you are to your Dad. I wish there was something I could say or do to make it better or at least not hurt so much…

    (((Kim)))

  98. Zoot,
    I will be thinking of you and your loved ones.
    so sorry.

  101. I am so sorry. Let the hospice folks help all of you, they are wonderful, I know.

    Peace to all, and I’ll be thinking about you.

  102. Oh, Zoot. I’m so, so sorry. I wish there were better words. You and your family are in my thoughts. *hugs*

  103. I’m so sorry to hear that your dad is failing. I had hopes that he was doing better. I do hope that his last days will be filled with the comfort that you and your family are with him.

    I’ll be thinking of you.

  104. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time.

  107. Saying I’m sorry seems woefully inadequate. But it’s all I’ve got. I’m so sorry. Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

  110. I am so so so so sorry to hear this. You are in my thoughts and prayers right now. All of your family is.

  111. I’m so sorry :(. I’ve not been doing much commenting recently but I have been reading about your Dad being ill and I didn’t think it would come to this. Your family are in my thoughts.

  114. ((Hugs)) losing a parent sucks… lost my dad in highschool but I am sure it doesn’t get any easier… take comfort in your memories and in the love your family shares. You are in my thoughts!

  117. You will absolutely be in my thoughts. It’s never easy to let go of a parent. I’m glad he has Hospice. They help the family and the patient more than you can imagine.

  118. delurking to say that there is nothing that I CAN say that will make this any easier…so I will, as many others are doing keep you in my thoughts and prayers…know you are cared for and about!

  119. I am so very sorry. As with so many others…your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

  120. Kim – so, so sorry…. I know how hard this is gonna be and just remember if you need anything we are here to listen… And I promise I can and will cry and laugh right along with you….

    LOVE YOU!!!!!!! Keeping you in my heart over the next few days, weeks, months, years…

  125. De-lurking to say I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. I lost my Mom in January after four months of wondering if each day was going to be our last together so I know how hard this is. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  127. I am SO sad to hear this! I will be thinking of you during this extremely difficult time for you and the rest of your family.

  133. Kim, I am so sorry for your father’s sudden illness. I am keeping him and your in my thoughts and prayers. May he have peace and calmness and may his heart be filled with love as you and the rest of the family surround him.

    Thinking of you,
    Heather

  135. Oh No! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope the time with your dad is filled with love calm and peace.

  136. You are definitely in my thoughts. I know first hand how tough loss is. My step-dad (who was my father) died in 2005 and my husband died in March 2007. Do what you need to do to make it as right as it can be? I hope you can understand my meaning.

  137. I am so sorry and I just wanted to let you know that I will be thinking of you and your beautiful family. You all will be in my heart and in my prayers, sending love from San Diego

  139. *Hugs* So sorry, Zoot. My thoughts go out to you and your family. Be there for each other, to help each other through this hard time. <3

  140. I am so sorry to hear this. Please be careful while you’re on the road and remember to take care of yourself. We will keep you, your father and the rest of your family in our thoughts and prayers.

  141. I’m so so SO sorry. My thoughts are with you and your whole family. Take care of yourself and one another in this difficult time.

  146. I am so sorry to hear that. You and your family are in my thoughts. Take care of yourself.

  153. Oh Kim… I am so sorry to hear this news. I wish you strength and love through this difficult time! Nothing we can say will make it better but know that the internet is thinking of you and your beautiful family!

  155. My father died when I was 22, so I know well the pain you are feeling and will be feeling for some time to come. Things will be dark for a while, but I’m happy to say that while the pain fades, the good memories remain.

    Love and peace to yours.

  157. So sorry to hear about your dad – my prayers are with you & your family.

  158. I am so sorry! Losing a loved one is very hard, and I will be thinking and praying for you and your family daily! My grandpa is on hospice currently, and I’m in the same situation, so I understand some of your pain.
    Hugs

  159. You are in my thoughts. I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. Stay strong and enjoy the time you have with your father.

  161. I am so sorry, Zoot–so, so sorry. I haven’t been through this myself, but I supported my husband through the illness & death of his dad just over 2 years ago. Hugs to you & the family.

  163. I hadn’t checked your site in a few days… and this. I am so, so sorry.

  164. Oh My Goodness, I am so sorry to hear this. Wishing you and yours much strength.

  167. I am adding to the echos of love and support being sent your way. I am so sorry you have to say goodbye. It isn’t fair. May your daddy have a peaceful escape.

  170. I am so sorry to hear this. I know it may offer little consolation right now, but my mom mentioned to me, many weeks after her mother passed, how relieved she was that the hospice was there in the end — they were extremely compassionate and caring and yet we never felt like they were hovering, and left us to spend our days with Grandma in peace.

    My deepest and sincerest thoughts are with you and the rest of the Zoot-family. ***HUG***

  171. Thank YOU for all of the gifts you’ve given us- let us (the blogging community) know if there’s anything we can do for you. Thoughts are with you.

  174. I’m really sorry. You are in my thoughts and I hope you get to say everything you need to say in these days with your Dad. He is blessed to have you as a daughter!

  175. Miss Zoot, I’m so sorry to hear the news about your father. My thoughts and prayers for you and your whole family.

  180. I am praying for you & your family’s strength and your dad’s comfort. XOXO

  181. Oh dear Zoot, I am so terribly sorry to hear that. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    Enjoy the time he has remaining as best as you can and celebrate what a great person he is, as it sounds like he sure is.

    With Love.

  182. I am so sorry to hear this. Our thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.

  184. i’m sorry it’s taken so long for me to send some compassion your way, but it seems like this whole thing just happened to me yesterday. it’s rough. and i know it’s rough in the way that when people tell you ‘it’s rough’ you just kind of want to punch them in the face.

    so, i’ll just say this: you’ve created a beautiful family, and your dad has had more than a little to do with that, i’m sure. i’ll be thinking about you all, and how you all make the world a better place.

  185. I’m so sorry. You were on my mind this morning so I thought I’d let you know your family is still in my thoughts. (Hugs)

  189. Kim, I’m so sorry. I went through something similar when my mother-in-law was dying and it was so, so hard. The hospice people were wonderful, but it doesn’t change how terrible and exhausting it is to lose someone you love.

  197. Kim, honey. I’m so terribly saddened to hear that your father is this sick. I had no idea. You are in my thoughts during this difficult time. Hugs to you sweetie and your whole family.

  201. I just wanted to let you know we’re all still thinking of your family right now, even if you’re not posting about it. I hope hospice is helping your dad, and easing the burden for the rest of y’all. I wish I knew what else to say.

  202. Hey Zoot. I come by every day to see if you’re back yet. I’m sure you know that we’re all thinking of and praying for you and your family.

  205. I was checking to see if you had updated … I hope that doesn’t mean bad news. I wish you and your family well. I hope you are spending good time with each other. Just leaving a comment to let you know I was thinking about you and yours.

  206. Ditto! I check each day to see how you are and also wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you.

  208. Oh my goodness. I’m so so so sorry. I’ve been away and I only now got to read this. I knew something was up when I saw you only had one new posted entry in my reader. Thinking of and praying for all of you.

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