When we got pregnant with AndyZ, we immediately started prepping for The Jealousy from NikkiZ. I mean – she was essentially an only child, with regards to our attention. LilZ just doesn’t require that much of it. While I was concerned with prepping her for the oncoming attention suck that would be her brother, I was also wanting to give her a LOT of EXTRA attention since I knew that attention suck would be coming.
In other words? We didn’t really prepare her at all.
However – there were several things we were preparing ourselves to cause Big Problems.
- Sharing her room. Don’t most kids find it irritating not to have their own space? We figured she’d find his encroachment into her life a little annoying.
- Me Cosleeping with AndyZ. I just knew she’d pull out the “I want to sleep with you!” temper tantrums almost immediately.
- Carrying AndyZ everywhere. NikkiZ was used to being carried, so giving up her spot to a kid who couldn’t walk? Was going to be a huge issue.
- Nursing AndyZ. I just assumed she’d be a little jealous of the extra Mom Time this would give him that she wouldn’t be able to enjoy.
Now – the problems we’ve actually had in regards to The Jealousy? NOTHING. Not a damn thing. She doesn’t care about any of the things we thought she would. And she still seems pretty enamored with her little brother. Hasn’t wanted to send him back yet or anything. We’ve been pleasantly surprised.
I would love to tell you that this wonderful Jealous Free relationship is due to something we did. But – um – it’s not. Unless we did something we were unaware of. I just think it hasn’t occurred to her (yet) that she could be jealous. She’s fine with all of the things we mentioned before.
Don’t get me wrong – she’s still pitching random tantrums. But – they have nothing to do with her brother. They have more to do with the fact that we are still unwilling to bend to her every will and allow her to abuse us verbally. We’re evil like that, with our need for manners and respect.
So – I just thought now would be a good time to jinx myself by drawing attention to how easily NikkiZ transitioned to being a big sister. How long now before her first fit of jealous rage? Maybe a week? Or are you thinking she’ll do it by bedtime tonight?