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Need Help. Send Naptimes.

I’d like to say I haven’t written because I’ve been busying partying or traveling or creating. Unfortunately, I’ve simply not had much to say other than, “I’m tired.”

I told MrZ yesterday that I’ve never been this tired in my entire life. I think he just blew it off because I talk about my exhaustion level 30 times a day, but I meant it. I’m so tired. I’ve not been able to take naps with NikkiZ for about 3 weeks now because AndyZ likes that time to be his awake time. Even before that, however, my naps were barely an hour if I was lucky. She only sleeps for about an hour-and-a-half, and it would take me at least 30 minutes to fall asleep.

Regardless of how short the naps were – I totally miss them. Terribly.

I’m up most nights watching TV trying to wind down until about 10pm. On average. Some nights I’m able to crash earlier, but most nights I’m up. It’s weird because I’m totally beat, but I’m still having a tough time falling asleep. And then, most mornings I’m up by 6am. AndyZ is still waking up every two hours to eat and for the last week he’s been waking up between feedings just to cry and fuss. Today I’m going to try eliminating all dairy (but my morning yogurt, I’ve eaten that for breakfast every day of his life so I don’t think that bothers him) to see if he sleeps better tonight.

I figure – on a good night – I’m getting 6 hours sleep. But most nights? Between 4 and 5. The most I ever get straight is about 2.5. Which, for one or two nights is not a big deal. But – I’ve been on this schedule for 8 weeks now and I’m losing my mind. Hence – not blogging. Every entry would look like this one: Oh Look! I’m Tired And Crazy! Still!

My Mom is coming in town today. She has offered to give me opportunities to sleep, but I’m not sure how easy it will be to sleep when I could be visiting with her. I’m not sure if I’d be able to go to sleep knowing she was out in the living room hanging out with the kids. But, I might at least try. Either that or spend the whole week crying in the fetal position in the corner.

19 thoughts on “Need Help. Send Naptimes.”

  1. That is rough. I wish I had some sound advice for you, but I can say I know how you feel. On the tired front that is. I am lucky if I get 3 straight hours of sleep right now. Last night? I fell asleep at 10, awake at 12, awake at 1, awake at 2, alarm at 5. yeah. I don’t have kids. I can’t sleep during the day to save my life. I am so tired I can’t sleep. Maybe it is the heat? I don’t know but if I can figure something out I will let ya know. 🙂

  2. I too wish I had some advice. I just remember how exhausted I was when my boy was tiny. Can you nurse more often during the day? Maybe he’s going through a growth spurt and needs more nursing – or could your exercising be affecting your milk supply?

    I vaguely remember that it eventually gets easier – but I know this part is really hard. Be kind to yourself…

  3. The whole nap things still kills me. On a rare occasion, there will be a 30 minute overlap.

    Hang in there. Hang in there.

  4. Let your mom help and sleep while she’s there. even if you only do it for one day, it’ll really help. Hugs!

  5. I remember the months (years) after my second little boy was born, not quite two years after the first. I would fall into bed at night thinking about how great my first cup of morning coffee was going to be! Nobody napped at the same time, and my only ‘alone’ time was at night after all were (however briefly) sleeping. So maybe that’s why you are staying up, too. We all need to be alone sometime, getting to make those huge decisions like when to go to the bathroom and what channel to stare at or what book to read (maybe even something that doesn’t rhyme!). I”m glad your Mom is coming to give you abreak – let her 🙂

  6. Definitely use your Mom as much as you can!
    I kind of remember that it gets better around 12 weeks? But sheesh, the all night nursing at this point is pretty awful, isn’t it? I’m frightened for myself this fall…
    My best sleepy wishes are with you.

  7. I’m not tending to an infant anymore – but still have a really hard “shutting down” before bed; my envy for my husbands ability to fall asleep before hitting the pillow is house legend. I’ve got a little routine that is helping the falling asleep thing….now if I could just tackle the staying asleep and not having to be up at 5AM thing.

    Hang in there – I bet your Mom knows how to make you feel better – thats what moms are best at.

  8. Oh, Zoot. I hate that exhausted feeling. Ugh. Yes, this entry has officially made me reconsider the ‘try for number two’ idea that has been swimming in my head. Maybe we’ll give it a year or two or three…
    and please SLEEP when your mom is here. There will be times for talking, of that I promise.

  9. I wish I had some encouraging words, but I’m in the exact same place. My Evie is 4 months old tomorrow and still only sleeping 2-3 hours at a time. Plus, I can’t seem to wind down at night either. By the time I get two kids to bed and finally have a moment to myself I just want to relax for a while. I’m hoping (for both of us!) that it gets better soon. I don’t think I’ve slept for more than 3 hours at a time in over 4 months now.

  10. Oh, Zoot. That sucks. So much. I have a 5-month old and I still remember this stage with Kodak clarity.

    Take advantage of your mom’s presence. Sleep as much as you can, at least for the first day or so. Then you’ll be coherent enough to actually converse with her and enjoy the time with her.

    She’s coming to help! Help is on the way!! Hooray!! That knowledge in itself was sometimes enough to lift the fog for me. 🙂

    Hope things settle down for you soon… and how in the WORLD has AndyZ been around for 8weeks? I am loving the cuteness, but the time, it flies!!

  11. Yay for moms who help out when you’re at the end of your rope. I’ve been there and I don’t know what I’d have done without mine. Let’s hope AndyZ gets the hang of sleeping through before Lil’bug did. It took her a looong time and she’s still not sleeping through every night. I’ve been there and it’s so not fun.

  12. *hugs*

    I too am exhausted. I am 9 weeks pregnant with an 11 month old and a 5 year old. I can’t nap with the baby because my 5 year old doesn’t anymore.

    I can’t wait for kindergarten to start but by then I will be out of the first trimester and hopefully have more energy.

    I hope you get a little rest while your mom is visiting. 😀

  13. Just remember how much more enjoyable your time with Mom will be if you take her up on her offer for much needed rest first!

  14. Oh dear, I remember that. It is hard to be a mom to two little ones, especially when one is a newborn. Plus, you get so over-exhausted that you can’t sleep when you know you should. You’re too tired to sleep. And all you can think about is how you should be sleeping.

    Just know, this too shall pass. This is just a season of life. Before you know it, you’ll blink and you’ll be getting a good 4-6 hours IN A ROW. (Just think of how delicious that sounds!). In the meantime, pamper yourself as much as you can, rest as much as you can, and just survive this. You can do it!

  15. You can’t fell guilty about letting your mum look after the little ones. You need sleep, and she wants to visit with her grandchildren. Great trade off!

    She has offered and you should take her up on it. But maybe treat her to a nice meal or some flowers to say thanks.

    After you have had lots and lots of sleep, you should have enough energy to stay up with your mum and the kids. so you still will get to spend time with her.

    Just remember… Soon both of them will be over 18 and you will be missing this stage in their lives. (And then comes the time when you can catch up on sleep!)

    Smile. We are all here for you. even if it is only to listen to how tired you are!

  16. I don’t want to post, because that means one more comment for you to read and not get sleep.

    Take care and the first 12 weeks are the worst, IMO.

  17. Oh yes, I have very vivid recent memories. I had a 22 month old and a newborn. The toddler quit taking naps, the newborn was colicky and refluxy and I was just waiting for it to get better. I was on 2-4 hours of sleep every day for 3 months (a lot of nights she’d wake up every 45 minutes and daddy worked nights). Everyone said at 3 months it would get better, it took about 5 months before my baby would sleep more than 3 hours at a time. She started sleeping through (most) nights at 7 months. Now at 8 months (and 2 1/2 years for my toddler) mommy is less exhausted. Those first 5 months though, they were killer. And my toddler HATED the baby until about that point. I can TOTALLY empathize and I really am sorry.

  18. Oh Zoot…I’m so sorry. It’s such a difficult time. I got tired just reading this. I don’t have any advice. Just know we don’t mind if you blog about being tired. I hope you can get some much needed rest soon.

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