As much as LilZ loves his sister, he is a teenage boy who likes his privacy and his quality time with his phone. It seemed like for awhile he didn’t have any. NikkiZ was constantly knocking on his bedroom door, “Knock Knock. It’s Me. Let me in!” I would try my best to pull her away, but once she made contact he didn’t feel like making her sad by sending her back to me. But – since there were other things he’d rather be doing – he would get frustrated with her and I would get frustrated with him and NikkiZ never quite understood what the big deal was. I mean – isn’t it everyone’s desire to hang out with her endlessly?
Our remedy was to buy a hanger for his doorknob. We have taught NikkiZ, if that is on his door, brother needs Quite Time and we can’t bother him. She caught on pretty quickly but the hanger is not convenient and often falls off. She has learned that just because there’s not a hanger on the door – doesn’t mean it’s not Quiet Time. So, she’ll come to me and say, “Can I knock on brothers door?” Or my favorite, “Does brother need Quiet Time?”
Let me tell you – it is the most adorable thing in the world. Seriously. She would cling to his hip every second of every day if he would let her. It’s a struggle for him because he knows this – and hates to disappoint her. But – as I’ve pointed out to him – if he’s not in the mood to hang out with her, then he’s short with her and impatient and it’s not the kind of quality time she’s wanting anyway. So – I’ve been trying to encourage him to only hang out with her when he’s ready and in the mood. It seems to be working well. They played happily for a good chunk of time last night. He didn’t lose his patience or get annoyed and she got her brother fix. He gets to love her just as his adorable sister and not as an irritating pest.
Now – if only someone would let me put a Quiet Time hanger on my door once in awhile.