Sorry for the lack of updates yesterday. Honestly? I kinda forgot about that post. After picking everyone up from their schools – I couldn’t really spend much time at the computer because NikkiZ was not taking a nap after all that excitement. Which means at 6:30pm she was in tears begging not to go to bed. Does anyone else’s kid do that? Resist sleep the more tired they are? On a normal night, bedtime is 7pm and she goes down without a fight. But last night she was preparing for a fight and broke out the tears and the hugs and the clings and said, “I’ll rest on the couch with Momma!” That’s something I let her do on nights we’re waiting for MrZ to get home before we go to bed, so she thought maybe it would work last night. And because I am a lazy Mom and didn’t want to fight her or listen to her cry in her crib, I gave in. After 42 seconds on the couch she was sound asleep.
But – aside from that – we had another kind of Tornado come through this week. The Report Card Tornado. It has the ability to destroy everything in our lives as well.
LilZ struggled with grades the first five years of school. I mean, he struggled which brought out a very ugly side of me as a mother. I have very little patience with academia because it came very easy to me in school. Finally, in 5th grade, we switched schools and he fell in with a smart crowd. The one with the kids who actually compete for good grades. He started being an A/B student on honor rolls and things were great. Unfortunately – that means since then that the previously regular bad grades are no longer accepted in our house. I challenged him this year to get straight As because I know he can do it. He came very close on the last report card, so I kept the challenge going. This report card? Let’s just say he didn’t get straight As.
But – the thing is – I was amazed at how he handled it. Every parent handles a bad report card differently and I think it also depends on how the child presents it. LilZ has learned, I guess, to give it to me immediately and to NOT make excuses. So, he got into the car and handed me his report card and his cell phone and said, “Here. No cell phone for a month. I understand.”
And was right on Target with that punishment. And I was very proud of how he handled it. He didn’t drag it out, he came up with his own punishment, and he took it very seriously with no excuses. I told him at the interim report (4 weeks) if all of his grades come up, he can have his phone back. Otherwise, it will take 9 weeks until the next report card comes out. But all in all? I’m okay with it. It sucks, mainly because all of his grades dropped, but I am still very happy with how he handled it.
Remember – I’m all about making lemonade.