I have the privilege of attending a brunch today, prepared, hosted, and served by a bunch of 7th graders at LilZ’s school. Each Teen Living class (his school’s version of Home Ec) has a day where they cook for their families, and today is LilZ’s day. I’m excited, but also a tad bit scared.
MrZ, his mom, and I will all be attending. When LilZ brought the invitation home, I filled it out for MrZ and I. He then asked if we could invite MrZ’s mom too, since he was allowed 3 spots. We did and she accepted. To the average person, this would not seem that exciting, but it’s one of the many awesome small things in my life that remind me how lucky we are.
Obviously, since MrZ is his step-dad, Mimi is LilZ’s step-grandmother. However, you would never know that from the outside. To our family, the closeness LilZ feels to MrZ’s family is nothing exciting, but to outsiders? I’m always hearing comments like, “That is so cool that they are all so close.” I guess there are step-families that aren’t as welcoming as MrZ’s family has been. Or maybe kids who don’t embrace their step-families as much as LilZ has. Either way – we are all very close and the question of blood relation never comes into play.
So, today the world will just see LilZ and his Grandma. But to me, it means so much more. LilZ has so much family that loves him that there are times that I feel like he is almost spoiled with love. Some kids don’t ever know their grandparents and here LilZ gets the privilege of having awesome grandparents in three different directions. They all dote and brag on him and he spends times with all of them as much as possible. But he’s the most lucky to have two grandparents here in town who have never thought of him as anything less than their grandson, even though he became that officially four years ago. I know there are step-families out there who struggle with those type of relationships and definitions daily, and I feel blessed that it’s never been a problem for us.
And it’s also a positive female influence in LilZ’s life that demonstrates that some women actually know how to cook more than frozen lasagna! And it tastes good! If he had only me here, he’d be screwed.