When you start seriously dating someone, or living with them, or marry them, you start to see that there are different ways of doing domestic things that you may not have considered. Sometimes, this is enlightening and you’ll adopt their way. However, a lot of the times you do NOT do things their way and you can either 1) Pick one way and stick with it 2) Find a compromise or 3) Each continue doing things your separate way.
MrZ has to fall asleep with the TV on. As in, he can NOT sleep if there is nothing playing in front of him to watch. This was tough since I never had TV in my bedroom. We first put a TV in the bedroom and then eventually I learned to tolerate (for the most part) the TV being on. However, there are still some nights when I’m struggling to sleep that I just can’t fall asleep with it on. Then I’ll either go sleep on the couch for a little while, or I’ll just wait until he falls asleep. But for the most part, I’ve adopted his “way” in that matter.
However, I also learned that MrZ refuses to wear new clothes until they’ve been washed. He has sensitive skin and has grown up understanding that the mystery chemicals or grudge on the clothing could cause a breakout of some sort. So, they must be washed first. This Kills Me. I grew up understanding that every time you wash clothing, you lose a little bit of the “new” look. Nothing looks as good as when you first bring it home. I love wearing clothes straight off the rack and sometimes will do it once or twice before the first washing because I know they’ll never look that good again. So, in that case? We both continue to go our separate ways. We wash his clothes the second they come home, but mine get worn a few times first.
I find this whole development in relationships fascinating. Especially in our case because I’m always very quick to remind MrZ that I have given in on almost EVERY DEMAND he’s ever put forth. I wont bored you with the list (Like – Zoot: “No Video Game Systems Ever.” MrZ: “Every Video Game System Ever.” Now: I waiting at Circuit City in the cold with a baby last year, overnight, to buy a Nintendo Wii.) but there is a list. And I’m curious what your list is. What changed in your relationship? What weird habits did your partner have that you had to reprogram? What compromises were made? Do you wash your new clothes before you wear them?