Thing 2

Discipline

NikkiZ started experimenting with temper tantrums this week. It’s so pitiful we find ourselves stifling laughter because when she pitches a fit? She goes ALL OUT. Grunting, arms wailing, screaming – the whole caboodle. It’s very easy to tell the difference between her tantrums and her “tired” or “hungry” or “need love” type of fits. Those? I respond to in seconds. But the tantrums? The ones when she appears to be temporarily possessed by demons? Those are different. She has a look of defiance in her eyes (as she’s screaming and flailing her arms around) that says, “Do what I want you to do NOW, or you’ll be sorry…trust me.”

Well, last night she started pitching one to get out of her high chair. I tried ignoring her but it escalated and I was afraid she would fall out, so I put her in time out in her playpen. When I would do that with LilZ? He’d scream a bit? But eventually calm down and I’d go get him and everything was fine. Well NikkiZ? Is not LilZ. That’s for damn sure. There is no “calming down” that occurs when she pitches her fits, not unless you do what she wants.

She just screamed harder.

And louder.

And more violently.

And I just sat there in tears wishing she would stop because I wanted her to calm down before I picked her up. I sat on the other side of the door just begging her to calm down. I may have even offered her a car. I went in and tried using our signs…and I tried soothing her with my voice…I tried everything BUT what she wanted. She was just pissed the hell off and she wasn’t going to stop screaming until someone came and picked her up. Finally? She had to stop just to catch her breath, at which point I jumped up, ran in, and was all “Good girl! You calmed down like momma asked!” I picked her up and loved her for the rest of the night because I felt so bad.

Parenting is kinda hard.

11 thoughts on “Discipline”

  1. I am just like you with tantrums. I have a hard time not laughing when a little tantrum starts. When it escalates, I can’t stand it. I guess little girls just want to prove a point.

  2. I hate the tantrums. They are awful. We try to let ours scream it out too. It is very hard sometimes.

  3. What a great post! Baby Jalyn is also very different than her big sister, who seemed to calm down pretty quickly too. But Jalyn just goes and goes. Initially we have to turn away to hide our laughter, but after a while it’s just not funny anymore.

    Maybe NikkiZ really is a redhead, because Jalyn is, and I blame it on the hair for sure!

  4. I should be working, but I’m having to hold back tears after reading about the animal shelter. This hits even closer to home because one of my best friends has a brother who let his dog get pregnant, and since he tried to commit suicide this week, the puppies all have to go to the shelter in Decatur, which is not a no kill shelter. I hope someone adopts them.

  5. I understand I have a 6 year old, 3 year old and 9 month old… I’m still trying to figure it all out. I thought when you had kids you knew the answers… I didn’t know I would be “winging it”!

  6. My daughter is completely opposite of my son! She’s very similar to Nikki Z in that she wouldn’t calm down either…but stick with it, eventually they figure out that if you don’t give them the attention they want, they’ll try something else. That, or, since they have different fathers, you can always blame it on Mr Z’s genes LOL

  7. Oh gosh, I am so glad to see that I’m not alone in that! I do the same w/ the babe…pray that she’ll stop screaming that I can go in and get her and am grateful that she’ll take that little breath! My babe pitches a fit everyday during nap…she HATES napping and will scream at me for making her do so. But if she was in control? She’d stay awake all day…at 6 months old!??!

  8. You’re better than I am. I can’t even discipline my cats. And if one of them cries in the middle of the night? I get up.

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