Parenting

Cycle of Parenting

My Dad commented on my Six Things entry yesterday which was really cool. Especially considering that I’m sure seeing that I don’t turn my feet backwards anymore made him so relieved because, seriously, he HATED when I did that. And do you know when I finally understood why he hated it so much?

The first time LilZ flipped his eyelids upside down. I bet I’ve seen dozens of kids do that in my life, but when he did it? I was all “OHMYGODWHYAREYOUDOINGTHATSTOPITNOW!!”

I’m sure it brings all parents a certain level of satisfaction when their kids finally understand the things they disciplined them for growing up. My Dad used to get really stressed that I would so freely drive all over Knoxville at all hours of the night never seeming to be concerned for my safety. He always seemed much more worried about me driving 20 miles away than what I was going to do when I got there. Well, for 2+ years I drove LilZ down to his Dad’s house in Georgia on Friday nights. Just LilZ and I. I would get so worried about things happening to my car (this was before I had a cellphone) and if so, what would I do? How many psycopathic late night helpers would I have to fend off? It was those thoughts that had me thinking, “Hmmm…no wonder Dad would get worried. It’s not all that safe for a girl to be out on the roads past midnight.”

(Or as my friends’ Dad use to say, “The bars close at 2am. You want to be off the roads by then.”)

But as teenagers? We felt so invincable, didn’t we? I think back to all the stupid shit I did and I wonder how in the hell I made it out of my teens alive. I joke sometimes that it’s a good thing I got pregnant at 18 because my path to stupidity was stretching into darker territory. Getting pregnant kinda woke me up and forced me to get focused on growing up and not how wasted I could get.

Let’s hope the powers that be don’t feel the need to pay me back for the stress I put my Dad through by making it 20 times worse with my own children.

10 thoughts on “Cycle of Parenting”

  1. Dude, top this: every weekend in high school, my friends and I drove the 45 miles to JUAREZ, MEXICO to drink in the no-age-limit bars there! AND to top it off, we weren’t too enamored of the whole ‘designated driver’ concept, if you get my drift! Yeah, my survival is downright miraculous and I think about how stoopid/lucky we were ALL. THE. TIME.

  2. I seemed to have escaped that “payback”, as I was not a model teenager!!! My kids were both awesome during the teen years!!! WHEW!

  3. As a parent, I now understand all the worries my own parents had for my well-being. Despite my plan to never, ever do that to my own kids, I can now say that, ummm, I am doing it to my own kids. Sigh.

  4. As a parent, I now understand all the worries my own parents had for my well-being. Despite my plan to never, ever do that to my own kids, I can now say that, ummm, I am doing it to my own kids. Sigh.

  5. Understanding my mom’s forms of discipline has been one of the greatest and scariest moments of my life. I’ll consider myself lucky if Tyler gets involved in half the half number of crazy situations I did growing up.

  6. A) Did I miss something about why you were outside at 6:00 am? In shorts?
    B) I always thought when I had kids that they would neverever get anything past me because I’d already been there,done that. But then I see the 12 year old girls in the mall with mile-high stilletos and enormous cleavage and I think, Mother of All Things Holy, little girls are 25 when they’re 13 and it’s terrifying.

  7. My parents had a saying “Nothing good happens after dark.” While I don’t completely agree with them, I realize they had a point.

  8. Oh My Zoot. Just think. If you were not out at 4am, you would not have your Name! I think we were pretty good though. Stupid yes, but really, were not hurting anyone but ourselves. I could only ask so much of some of these teens today.

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