I’ve written before about how strongly I believe in the idea that the world gives me what I put into it. But, no matter how strong I believe in it – I still struggle, especially around my kids, to remember this. Some days, through my interactions with those two alone, I dump giant 50 gallon tubs of SHIT into the world and wonder why it trickles back my way.
BUT STILL! I have Faith in the Power of the Positive Ripples.
(Completely different from the Power of Positive Nipples. Don’t get the two confused.)
(Oh My God. I just cracked myself up with that line. So much so that I added it to the title.)
(WARNING: I’m writing this at 2:30am on a Sunday before we have to leave at 4:30am for 70.3 race of Donnie’s. My evaluation of “humor” is probably a little off.)
ANYWAY! One of the subtle changes I’ve been trying to make in my life to promote this idea of Spreading Joy into the world, is to follow through on kind ideas. Sometimes I’ll think, “I should send her a sympathy card…” or “I should buy that for him…” or “I should send her a message telling her I think X is an awesome thing about her…” but I never follow through. I get these GREAT moments of inspiration to spread the joy into someone’s life, but then I don’t do anything about it. Sometimes it’s because it’s an expensive idea so – you know – I can’t really follow through there. But, often it’s something free or just affordable, a small gesture to show someone I’m thinking about them, or that I care. And I used to be SO BAD about just letting those ideas fall to the wayside and never actually seeing them through.
But these last few weeks I’ve been REALLY trying to follow-thru more. I’m not setting out to THINK of positive things to do in other people’s lives…I’m not that enlightened (yet?) – but when the ideas come to me, I don’t just let them drift into the ether without any action. Perfect example: I saw a grocery item at the store recently that reminded me of a conversation a friend and I had and I thought, “I should bring this to him!” It wasn’t anything expensive or special or even too unique (I mean, it was a Target, we’re not talking about exotic produce or anything) but it just made me think it would make my friend smile. I left the store without it, which is my natural instinct when I get one of these ideas. Just to let it pop into my head, and then pop out without seeing any action.
BUT! The next time I was at Target? I did it. I bought the silly grocery item and then I went directly and gave it to my friend while he was at work. Bam. It didn’t take hardly any time or money and it gave him the biggest smile. Mission Accomplished.
Those ideas pop into my head all the time, and I can’t always follow through. BUT – since I’ve been more conscience of them – I’ve realized that there are plenty I can follow through on, and I have. I’m not great at it (yet?), but I’ve done it a few times in the last month, so I feel like it’s getting to be more habitual than it was before. Also, I now find that the ideas are popping into my head more. Sometimes they’re too expensive or I just don’t have the time, but if I encourage those ideas by following through on them when I can, they pop into my head more often.
And now I think I’d like to take it to another level. I’d like to come up with some generic “Nice Things” items to do/make so that, when I want to send somebody a positive thought or kind gesture, I can consult my pinterest board (which is currently empty) and just pick an idea to do it. Or if I feel like there’s been a lot of sadness in my community, I can find an idea to spread joy on a wider level. I just love the idea of taking small steps that make a big impact in the life of people. My dark days have been brightened so often by gestures of love and kindness, I consider it my job to send that type of energy back into the universe.
REAL TIME EXAMPLE: After that paragraph I just wrote I went to add things to the Pinterest board just to make it have SOMETHING and found a great idea about make hearts so – instead of just pinning it – I ordered some sculpey on Amazon (On sale! Cheaper than at Michaels!) and it will be here Tuesday. I have already decided to send one in a note to my kid’s room moms to thank them for their time/efforts. SEE! Great idea and I am taking the actions to actually see it through. And that $20 on clay will make, I’d say – 100 hearts. And the kids can help! Then those moments take no time because we’ll have a stash of hearts to send!
So. If you have any ideas for this type of thing, Random Acts Of Kindness type things, please send them my way. I can actually add you to that board if you’d like, but I’m not going to just randomly add people without their permission. Then I’m just a #SpreadingJoy bully and no #PositiveNipples will be created.
(Hee. Still funny.)