(Kelli! I’m sorry! That title is another misleading one! This one is not about actual paper planners! :))
Nikki is a planner. I have no idea where she gets it from (insert sarcastic scoff here) but she feels much better about EVERYTHING if she knows what is going to happen when and what she has to wear and where she has to be and who is going to be there and what they are going to be doing and…and…you get the point.
Unfortunately, it’s not always in our power to know everything.
(That sounded vaguely philosophical.)
And…when you are going to school in a really small magnet program that is only in it’s second year, you don’t always have answers to your questions. This is exactly what we found out yesterday at orientation for Nikki’s school year. Not only was the locker thing really stressful (do you remember how difficult combination locks seem at first?) but there were no printed schedules yet and they’re changing the way they do PE so the rules either aren’t clear or aren’t established and…and…well, you get the point.
Needless to say, this is stressing her out. It’s stressing me out too since we are cut from the same cloth, but I’m trying to be a grown-up (trying) and helping her out. I’m reminding her over and over that NO ONE will know what’s going on the first day. This will also be her first year bussing to school, and that just feels mysterious a little bit since she’s never done it. And you know…JUNIOR HIGH. It’s just all overwhelming.
So we’re going to be as prepared for all of the situations as possible, like packing several different clothing items for PE. We’re going to buy something like a bracelet or something to spin or play with in case we need to center ourselves if it all just seems to be too much. We’re going to have our notebook ready to write anything down that we need to buy that we didn’t know about so we can do that IMMEDIATELY after school. (I PROMISED HER IMMEDIATELY.) And we’ll have our flip phone for emergency contact needs.
Anxiety and middle school are a bad combination, even on the BEST DAYS, so here’s to trying to manage it the best way possible when school starts next week.