God forbid anyone think I’m a booger-eater.

I stated many times that I am too lazy of a consumer to do boycotts. I mean – I’m pretty sure a lot of my money lines the pockets of people I wouldn’t approve of. I’m just too lazy to research enough to really stand my ground on anything.

Instead, what I chose to do last year, was to avoid being mistaken for someone who supports the fight against gay marriage. Have I gone a year without a chicken sandwich from Chick-fil-A because I don’t want Dan Cathy getting my money? No. I’ve gone a year without eating at Chick-fil-A because the controversy became so public that I feared my purchase could be misinterpreted as support. I have gay friends and family who really assume at this point – after the widespread attention that Dan Cathy’s comments got – that anyone who still eats at Chick-fil-A must simply either A) Agree with him or B) Not disagree enough to care.

And god forbid ANYONE see me in the drive-thru line and assume that. So? No Chick-fil-A for me. Not really a boycott…more like avoiding hanging out with the kid at school that eats his boogers at the risk that everyone then believe that I eat MY boogers.


Recently I mentioned reading Ender’s Game. Many of you pointed out the author’s stance on gay marriage on that entry and I suddenly remembered a Vlogbrother’s video about an author Hank Green loved who turned out to be kind of an asshat. I googled it and YEP. SAME GUY.

ARRRRRGGGHH! Why didn’t I remember that before I read the book?!?!

Because – here’s the situation. I loved the book. The main reason I read the book was because I saw the trailer; and the trailer for the movie looked awesome so I thought…I should read that book before the movie comes out! And I did! I basically read the book in anticipation of loving the movie. AND I LOVED THE BOOK. So, you know, I became even more excited about the movie!

And since I realized what I had done, I’ve been debating in my mind about what I’ll do when the movie comes out. Do I separate the art from the artist? Do I refuse to allow even one dime of my money to line the pockets of someone so staunchly against gay marriage that he sits on the board at the National Organization of Marriage? Well…I was kinda deciding to still see the movie because I didn’t feel like the controversy had become mainstream enough yet. (I know. That makes me sucky. I’m just being honest here, people.) I didn’t feel like my going to the movie would be interpreted as support for Card and the NoM so it would be okay.

But…the boycott is gaining momentum. So much momentum that the studio released a statement proclaiming their support for gay marriage.

GUYS! I’m so torn! I WANT TO SEE THAT MOVIE SO BAD. I thought it was hard to give up chicken sandwiches…but not seeing this movie is going to be tough! I’m thinking I’ll just wait until it’s on Netflix or something so I can watch it for free. That should ease some of my guilt, right?

BAH. Why do close-minded people make awesome things like great sci-fi and yummy sandwiches?

What are your thoughts? Are you going to see the movie? Do you have other examples of this in your life where your love of a product conflicts with your feelings about the creator of that product? What resolution did you come to?

I feel like I should point out that I’m writing this entry at 3:30am. I’m having some major issues with stress and sleep. It’s starting to piss me off. Just wanted that to go on record. KIM IS PISSED OFF ABOUT NOT SLEEPING WELL.

As you were.


  • Mary

    Meh. I still eat CFA, and I support gay marriage. If I had a business and was vocal about my support of marriage equality, I would like to think that those who disagree with me would keep that separate from whether or not they used my services. And I don’t think the fight for marriage equality is going to be won in a restaurant or a publisher’s office or a movie theatre. My friends who are gay know that I support fully their right for totally equality in all areas, and that is about as much thought and work as I can bring myself to put into it.

  • Jen

    The fact that Orson Scott Card is a bigoted as***le doesn’t change the fact that he’s also a brilliant writer.

    I’m not sure how much he was paid for the movie rights (those tend to be surprisingly low) or whether he gets any share of box office. If bums in seats at the movie mean more money in his pocket, I probably wouldn’t go.

    But I stole the e-book on the internet, and will probably torrent the movie at some point. And then donate what I’d have spent buying/seeing/renting the book/film to my favourite LGBT charities in his name.

    That seems like the best revenge. I’m going to love the crap out of your story, AND the gays! Take THAT, Card!

    • Fraulein N

      THIS. Mwahahaha! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with enjoying this awful man’s work, as long as I’m not lining his pockets. I mean, damn, I would kill for some waffle fries, but I wouldn’t really be able to enjoy them thinking about where my money was going.

  • Heather

    I read the book 15 years ago, and loved it. It was one of the first sci-fi books I chose for myself as an adult. I have fond memories of talking about it with my husband.

    I love that they are adapting good science fiction to the screen instead of just making yet another sequel of something that wasn’t that good in the first place. I agree that the trailer looks amazing.

    For me, the movie will have to wait until it gets to Netflix or Amazon. I will likely be better on the big screen but I just … don’t want to. I am more conscious of my Artist Consumer Dollars than I am of my regular spending dollars and OSC just doesn’t get to have mine that directly.

  • Kim

    I’m going to go see the movie. I still eat at chick fila. (Largely because it’s a quick, easy, healthy fast food restaurant and the only one I can find healthy alternatives when we’re being lazy.) I support gay marriage and my gay friends.

    There are so many companies that do support gay marriage, and companies that don’t. I don’t feel like researching them all. I’m not going to boycott something because we’ve boycotted things in the past, and in the end… it doesn’t make much of a difference. If it’s something I enjoy, I’m going to do it. If it isn’t, I won’t.

    I can’t wait to see Ender’s Game. The book is absolutely amazing, and I really hope they do justice to the movie.

  • Corina

    This is not an easy subject. On Orson Scott Card my feeling is that he is a flat-out jerk. If he owned a small business in my town, and he said and did this shit, and I knew about it, I would go out of my way not to shop there because it would mean I would have to interact with him and I’d really rather not do that or give my money to him. (I have, in fact, done this. I refused to go to the only wine shop in town because it was owned by a huge jerk. The wine shop is now closed, and that is sad, because NO MORE WINE SHOP, but happy, because he moved and so YAY NO MORE JERK.)

    My feeling is that books, despite the fact that there are many people involved in their creations, are like a small business. Supporting them is intimately tied to supporting their author/owner. So … I would not buy a book written by someone whose views I found abhorrent if I knew ahead of time that he held those views. BUT! A big Hollywood movie is not like a sole-proprietorship. There are so many people and entities and ideas and creators behind a movie that buying a ticket is not like directly supporting any one person and their beliefs. (See: movie studio behind Ender’s Game supports gay rights.) So I would feel significantly less uncomfortable going to see Ender’s Game than I would buying the book. Sensible line? Meh. It’s the one I’m drawing.

  • Monica

    I am not going to see the movie. I loved the book when I read it, so much so that Ender was on our list of names when we were adopting our son. But I cannot put one penny in the pocket of someone with such hatred in his heart towards something I believe in. He will use that money to support his “cause.”
    I read somewhere that he does get a share of the box office. If I can find the article, I will come back here and let you know where it is. I have also seen some articles where he is trying to defend the movie, saying it doesn’t have anything to do with gay marriage, gay rights, etc. While that is in itself true, the fact that he is so full of venom towards the gay community is just not something I can support.

  • Melanie

    If you feel that strongly, rent it at your local library, it will be forever before you see it, but you will see it for free and he won’t get a dime of your money!

  • LifeSheWrote

    I know what you mean. First of all, I don’t want to support evil companies or people who’s views I greatly disagree with. Secondly, I DO need to buy products – and this makes it very difficult to function. I just do the best I can when I can. Chick-fil-a has been out for me (sadly because I love their food) as has the gas station BP…. even though I know it’s ridiculous because LOTS of companies do bad things and LOTS of CEOs have views I don’t agree with and I end up supporting them accidentally. But still. Trying counts for something, yes?

    And I LOVE LOVE LOVE Ender’s Game. Actually, I love Ender’s Shadow even more! (Go and read now! Go! Now!) Honestly, I love everything that Orson Scott Card has ever written (including non-Ender stuff like Enchantment and Lost Boys). I don’t agree with his views on gay marriage. But I do know he’s a member of the LDS church and their official stance is not to support gay marriage. So I reframe him as someone who believes his religion thoroughly? Ok, so I know that’s BS. But I really do respect OSC despite his views on the gay marriage front. His writing is simply amazing.

  • Jenny

    i’ll probably go see the movie if i have a chance. i read the book a few years ago and i knew he was a douche bag then when i picked it up, but i had so many sci-fi nerd friends who said “hey this guy is a dick but this story is AMAZING” and they are right. i can separate the art from the artist. i’m a fan of charles manson as a musician which always creeps people out but i really think he could have been a great musician if he hadn’t been butt nuts crazy. does not mean i approve of charles manson, but i dig his music. i don’t approve of orson scott card’s personal views, but i dig his book, and i know that in movie format, his story is being told by a film crew, production company, actors, and others. its not going to line his pockets completely, and with the studio putting out a note saying they don’t follow along with card’s personal views, i feel that while a small part will go to a douche bag, money will also go to people who aren’t douche bags. the movie its self doesn’t promote an anti-gay hate agenda so i see nothing wrong with it.

  • Nienuh

    Ok, dillema even bigger. I read this post, your opinion on enders game AND the authors position on gay marriage. And i wanted to read the book because you loved it. But not wanted to buy it because you werent sure whether this was an accepted thing. You are totally my role model btw. Creeping you out yet?

    Was in doubt but in the end did nothing, which kind of solved the issue. But now, while cleaning out the book shelves, i found the book! Apparently my husband got it from somewhere. And the whole issue is back. To read or not to read…

    Am Dutch by the way, so the whole gay marriage thing Is totally done and dealt with already.

  • Courtney

    Ok, so I know I’m like WEEKS late to this conversation, but I thought I’d add my two cents. I support gay marriage and yet I still eat at Chik-fil-a. Joel and I made a decision that we would try not to eat any fast food ever (due to health issues) but we made an exception for CFA because we think it’s about as healthy as it gets fast food wise. We just got one here in Indiana and I’m so freakin excited because FINALLY there’s some good sweet tea up here. Seriously, the tea situation is abysmal here.

    Also, I’m going to have to see this movie because this is Joel’s favorite number one of all time book. He’s read it over 10 times and has read ALL of the books written after it and anything even possibly relating to Ender. He loves this book so much that when I asked to read it and I grabbed for the hardback version, he had a pained look on his face and he handed me a paperback version instead. Seriously. Is the author a douche? Yep but I have a feeling there are a lot of DB authors/writers/producers out there whose stuff I love but who I would actually dislike as a person.

  • Antigone

    My husband and I have chatted about it so I figured that I’ll get the book at the library and we’ll wait till the movie comes out on RedBox and pay $1.00 to see it. I do boycott against things I don’t believe in but I don’t ever judge others for NOT doing the same. Will I eat CFA? NOPE! But I will not judge somebody else or think them automatically anti-gay because they choose to eat it. I think that would be kind of a douchy thing to do.