“I’ll NEVER get married again. I am just not cut out for long-term commitment. Don’t get me wrong – I won’t run away from my knight in shining armor if he arrives, but I don’t believe he exists.”
That was one of the first conversations MrZ and I ever had. We had been flirting for a short while and I was very attracted to him. However – I knew that being a single mom sometimes shouted, “I need a Daddy for my Baby” so I wanted him to know right off the bat that I was NOT looking for a relationship. I had only been newly single for a year and I was just planning on enjoying that for a while.
A few weeks later? He told me he hoped I would marry him one day.
And a year ago today, I did.
My Dearest MrZoot,
There is no way on earth you will ever be able to fully comprehend what a difference you have made in my life. I can say, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I will always look back on the day we got married as the best day of my life. Yes – I love LilZoot as I will any future children we will have – but the day he was born, although WONDERFUL, was also filled with PAIN. And LOTS OF IT. Our wedding day was, in one word: Perfect. It was the type of day for which the word “perfect” was invented.
The fun actually started the day before our wedding. Our friends and family started congregating in town. I had been up all night the night before putting final touches on a few things. We began decorating – we picked up tuxes – we checked into hotel rooms. We had our rehearsal and your mother planned the perfect rehearsal dinner. I ended the dinner and the gift giving time with my final toast. This was the toast I gave that night.
You have taught me more about love and relationships in the last three years than a lifetime worth of self-help books and Dr. Phil shows could have.
First: you have taught me that it IS possible to fall more in love with someone everyday, even after three years of being together.
Second: You have taught me that it is also possible for two people who could be the poster children for Ã¢â‚¬Å“Type-A Control FreaksÃ¢â‚¬Â to learn how to compromise and share responsibility.
Third: You have taught me that those little things that are cute in the beginning of a relationship Ã¢â‚¬â€œ DONÃ¢â‚¬â„¢T have to start to aggravate you as the years go by. I am still a sucker for the voices you give our animals and the times you like to break into the MrZ dance!
But MrZ? The most important thing you have taught me is that
The perfect Dress,
Krispy Kreme wedding cakes,
The support of family,
And the presence of Friends Old, New and Rekindeled,
Along with more butterflies and purple roses that should be legal Ã¢â‚¬â€œ
Can make a dream wedding…
But Ã¢â‚¬â€œ it is the comfort in knowing that you are marrying your soul- mate
The one man you know you were put on this earth to spend the rest of your life with,
That turns the same dream wedding into a true to life Fariytale.
I promise to spend my life saying Ã¢â‚¬Å“Thank-YouÃ¢â‚¬Â.
And with you and LilZoot by my side,
We can turn this Ã¢â‚¬Å“Once Upon a TimeÃ¢â‚¬Â into a Ã¢â‚¬Å“Happily Ever AfterÃ¢â‚¬Â.