4 Simple Goals (EEK.)

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A Beautiful Mess has a challenge/idea on her blog to just set yourself Four Simple Goals to achieve before the end of the year.

  1. choose simple goals that will make your life richer and happier on a daily basis. choose things you may not otherwise get done, but that are not difficult to accomplish.
  2. do not choose result oriented goals, choose activity oriented goals. for example…. instead of “lose 10 pounds”, choose something like “eat fresh fruits and vegetables every day”. get what i’m saying? positive actions instead of just the end result!
  3. choose goals that are personal that you believe will truly make your life richer just by doing them! they can be daily, weekly or one time experiences.

COME ON. This is a GREAT idea. I love that she refers to them as “activity oriented goals” – which I think is a key in my life. I feel like I have to achieve a certain result I get overwhelmed. But simple activities that enrich my life? WHO CAN SAY NO TO THAT ONE? I’m so in love with this idea that I’ve spent 24 hours obsessing over what my Four Simple Goals will be.

And I can’t seem to do it.

It’s so hard not to be like, “Finally! Lose that weight I’ve been trying to lose since [insert random catalyst in my past HERE. Suggestions: NikkiZ’s birth. Quitting Smoking. Being Laid Off.]” But I’ve been struggling with that since whatever catalyst you chose occurred. So, that seems a bit disingenuous. I want to Be A Better Mom, but that’s not really activity related either. It seems Simple Activity Oriented Goals are a struggle for me.


I decided to try NOT to revisit the same challenges I’ve been trying to conquer for years. Let’s do something completely different but that has been lingering in my mind for ages. Little bits of KRAZEE IDEAS that have popped up here and there. Maybe I should nurture those for awhile? Steer away from the standard: Lose Weight. Be A Better Mom. Complain Less. Smile More. These things are permanent fixtures in my mind anyway, things I’m always trying to do. I think this challenge is more about setting goals to do something that will shake things up a bit. One task that I have always said I wanted to do was to grow my following on my Instagram account and also try and hopefully get more likes on content that I post. I know it’s not always about numbers, but it does help when it comes to social media. As this was something I had always wanted to do, I thought I might as well do some research into how I could achieve this. I even spoke to a few friends, who recommended I looked into something like Buzzoid’s Instagram growth service, if I was serious about building my online presence, which I was. After this, I started realising that there is always a solution to pretty much anything you want to accomplish, even if it does mean doing it in a different way or even asking for help. This was possibly one of the best moves I ever made. What I would say is chose to focus on each goal one day a week so that every week you force myself to at least TRY to achieve these goals. So…WITHOUT FURTHER ADO:

Kim’s (Off-The-Beaten-Path) 4 Simple Goals

  1. Wear a dress/skirt once a week. I’ve been thinking about this a lot. I’m not a girly-girl. I don’t wear makeup but a few times a year. I rarely fix my hair and prefer the “scrunchy bun” technique. But sometimes I see these free-spirited Bohemian-styled women in skirts and dresses and think: THAT’S the kind of girly-girl I could be. No need for makeup, still. If I don’t want. Just some sort of flowing skirt and fun jewelery? I have LOADS of fun jewelery I never wear because I’m usually in sweats and a t-shirt. I see these women periodically and wonder what that would be like. I never even wore dresses/skirts much when I was working in a professional office. This? Could totally change my outlook on life. Or it could make me flash the neighborhood 100 times a day. I’m not very ladylike, you know.
  2. One Day A Week, Carry The Camera Everywhere. I often see things throughout my day that I’d like to photograph. But – I don’t want to carry my camera everywhere all the time. Maybe if I picked ONE day a week to do it, I’d get used to it and find a system and force myself to take different photographs outside my normal arsenal of NikkiZ In A Cute Outfit.
  3. Once a week force myself to eat something different. Maybe try a new recipe, but I’m thinking more about trying new foods in general. Or at least new combinations of foods. I know what I like and even though I’m cooking so much more than 2 years ago, it’s still the same basic menu. I really like Chicken. And Rice. And Pasta. A lot of my meals involve one of those three things. I want to get out of my comfort zone a bit now that I’m more comfortable in the kitchen and try something new. Maybe even something that isn’t A) A Casserole or B) Cooked in the Crockpot. Because at least 95% of my favorite meals come from one of those two places.
  4. Visit a new place in town once a week. I love Huntsville, we all know that. But again – I’m in a rut just like in my kitchen. I know the places I like so when we want a park, or to shop, or to eat — I have my arsenal of faithful stops we revisit. I think I need to branch out more. Find some smaller stores to try out. New restaurants. Museums. Galleries. I can think of enough to get me through the end of the year just sitting here, not even Googling. Places I’ve wanted to try but that go out of my comfort zone a bit. I get nervous going somewhere new, but isn’t that the point of this exercise? Find simple ways to enrich our lives. Get OUT of my comfort zone, for a change. For some inspiration.

I’m nervous about all of these. I don’t think I realized how much of a creature of habit I am until I sat down to do this. I don’t branch out much. Partly because of anxiety, partly because I never feel like I’m quite cool enough to do these things. Wear a flowy skirt? Carry my camera everywhere? Eat at interesting places or visit galleries? THAT’S NOT ME. I eat BBQ in my Yoga pants (I don’t even do Yoga!) and take pictures of my kids in cute outfits. But I’ve been trying to get myself out of a rut in general anyway lately – why not try to introduce new things into my life as a way of doing that? Maybe I’ll find out I’m just a Maxi Dress Wearin’, Starfruit Eatin’, Gallery Browsin’ Photographer deep down inside.

Probably not. But, you know. We’ll see.


  • MS

    This is a GREAT idea Zoot and I love your goals. Think of what a great example you’re setting for your kids. Definitely the kind of “attempt new things regularly” trait you’d want them to have, right?

    Good luck and I’m going to start thinking about my 4 things now.

  • Cobblestone/Heather

    In regards to eating one different thing a week. I’ve made a rule that I have to try every food I don’t like at least once a year. Greens and broccoli might be awhile before I get into them, but I keep trying!

  • Cass

    This is such a great idea – I’ve got to start thinking about my four things and I adore the A Beautiful Mess blog – how did I now know about this before?

  • Sandy

    Go for it!

    I know what you mean about the camera bit-have thought of doing that myself. All I have is just a plain camera flip phone, so you know they don’t take that great of pics. May make your goal on the camera bit a goal of mine.

  • Christy

    I love those maxi dresses because they’re so cute, you can wear your cute jewelry, AND STILL WEAR FLIP FLOPS, lol.
    and the scrunchy (messy, for me) bun looks so cute when wearing one.

  • Maggie

    I wish you the best of luck on all of these, I would find wearing the dress/skirt once a week the most difficult to accomplish. Definitely want an update as you go along.

  • Margie

    As many photos as you take and post, I thought you DID carry your camera everywhere! :p I think we all have certain passions when it comes to photography. I like to photograph flowers and food. I’m good at wrestling photography, but find other sports tough. It’s all practise, though; I know I could improve by simply taking more photos.

    Overall those sound like fun goals. I hope you’re successful in finding new things to enjoy. And the upside is exposing your kids to more new experiences, too.


  • Jonni

    Great goals! Good Luck!!

    I’ll send you some awesome recipes to try 🙂

    Have you tried Moe’s BBQ on Cecil Ashburn? What about Tortora’s out in Hampton Cove behind Publix – I only recommend their pizza, but it’s FABULOUS!

    And does going to all 10 Casa Blanca mexican restaurants count as a different restuarant every week? 🙂

  • Fraulein N

    Ooh, good luck! This is such a terrifying but awesome idea. I might have to try it myself despite my terror. I like the idea of setting activity-oriented goals.

  • Diane

    Your goals are fabulous and obtainable. I love wearing skirts. I find them cooler than pants during hot weather. Windy days can be bothersome so I make sure to always wear cute underwear with my skirts as I would be mortified to moon the neighbors while pruning the roses like my grandmother did.

  • MrsDragon

    Also, re the carry a camera everywhere, I just have a little point and shoot, so I throw mine in my purse. Easy peasy. And you’d be surprised what kind of photos you can take at red lights. : )